Here is a conversation I had with myself a few weeks before I left my job a year ago. I noticed that I was not anxious about leaving the job I had been in for the last 12 years. So inquired of myself why.
How can you be ok with not having a job?
Because I know that everything will work out in the end. I don’t know all the details yet, but I have faith things will work out; they always have.
Are you not worried?
Of course, I’m worried. I’m human and I have people who are dependent on me for their livelihood. I’m worried that I may not be able to get healthcare when I’m eligible for the marketplace. I’m worried that none of my plans will work out and things will get really bad. I’m worried about how bad things can get before they get better. But I don’t dwell on them. I try to plan for the worst in case it happens. But the best thing I can do is keep the faith and keep moving forward.
So, if you plan, everything will be a-ok, right?
No, and yes. You’ve heard the sayings, “Man plans, and God laughs” and “The best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry.” Planning will not ensure a smooth ride. Nothing ensures a smooth ride because life is never a smooth ride. There are always ups and downs, peaks and valleys. But planning helps you to see and avoid some pitfalls along the way. It keeps you from falling too far down when life hits you. It keeps you from being blindsided and falling way down into the valleys. Planning turns a setback into a detour.
What advice would you give others to not be worried?
- Have faith (or just trust) that the right opportunity will come. Don’t jump the gun and take any old thing that comes your way, or you won’t be available for your true opportunity. But don’t wait forever or put yourself in dire straits. If you need money or you’re going to be evicted, take the best option. Your opportunity may not be ready for you, or you may not yet be ready for your opportunity. Just do what’s best for now and have faith that it will come.
- Do the planning and the work. Luck is opportunity meeting preparedness. If you don’t plan out your options, or make yourself ready and available, then you won’t be able to take advantage of the opportunities that come.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. Your path is not their path, your journey is not their journey, and they are an entirely different being. There is no way that you can (or even should) be like them or do things the way they do. If you find that you are comparing yourself to others, then keep these quotes in mind, “Those who get much, need much”, “The best students get the hardest tests”.