As I’ve mentioned before, I’ve spent the last 10 or so years, unraveling old “truths” and learning the real truths of life.
Side note: I was originally going to title this “Things I’ve learned so far in my Middle Age years”, but apparently I’m not middle aged. To be accurate in my description, I looked up when middle age starts. I thought it started at 35 when you get letter from your life insurance company saying it time to increase your coverage. Or when your risk for pregnancy complications become great. But no. According to Wikipedia, middle age doesn’t start until you’re 45. So what does that make us late 30 and early 40-somethings? Late young adulthood. Yeah – that’s what I said.
So on to my list
- What others think of me matters less than what I think of myself
- Put your oxygen mask on first before you help others
- Nothing can make you happy. Happiness comes from within yourself
- I am more powerful than I give myself credit
- Kindness and patience pay much greater dividends than anything else
- Every friend is a real friend, but not all are meant to follow your journey forever
- You may not always get what you want, but you will always get what you need
- I can’t control everything that happens to me, but I can control how I react and respond
- Most battles are not worth fighting
- Life is too short to not dare and to not try
- Life is too too short to be miserable
- You can’t appreciate the peaks if you don’t experience the valleys
- I alone am responsible for the choices I make in my life
- I alone am responsible for determining my life’s path
- Don’t let life happen to you, MAKE life happen
And as the title suggests, this is just so far. There is much much more to learn.
If you don’t take time to relax, your body will force you to.
You resent people when they are not who you want them to be.
Happiness is accepting life as it is. You can strive for more, different, or better but accept that a sapling is a sapling for now and not lament that it’s not already an oak.
I would not be where I am had it not been for the hard work and sacrifices of my ancestors and predecessors. I must take full advantage of these opportunities and not take them for granted because not everyone has them.
Appreciate people for who they are and what they can provide
No two people are the same. Therefore you cannot expect them to be capable of the same things. We all do not have the same capacity to give and receive trust, understanding, helpfulness, or love. You cannot expect a gallon of stuff from a person who can only hold a pint of it. Continue reading
One sign of maturity is when a person hurts you, you try to understand their situation and don’t hurt them back. You choose to heal yourself through understanding and not through revenge.
Some things in life are like a subway train. Continually looking at the time, will not make it come any sooner nor make it move any faster. You just have to wait and be ready for when it arrives.
Children are a blessing no matter when they come. They may be an inconvenience to us, but God has a plan.
Loneliness is not about how many or how few people you have around you. It’s about how connected you feel to those people.
As adults, before we realize who we really are, we are the product of what our parents have taught us. And what our parents have done, has taught us way more than anything they have said.
I learned from my father that I was not worth of staying around for. That I did not deserve his time, attention, or love. My mother taught me that you do whatever you can for people, regardless of how bad they treat you. If you give more, then maybe they’ll stay and treat you right.
I brought both of these lessons into every relationship I have had, with a man or woman. I would do all that I could for my friends, lovers, and family, in hopes that they will like me, maybe love me, and stay around. All the while feeling that I did not deserve their friendship or love.
Look, look, look at your own relationships. See what they all have in common. Then look at what you saw your parents do and how it made you feel. Identify the connection between the two. If you have been wondering why you attract the same problems or problem people in your life, this may be why.